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What It's Like When My Kids Are At Their Dad's House

Posted On: Jan 14, 2019   |   Posted By: Scary Mommy

What It's Like When My Kids Are At Their Dad's House

I walk through the front door and excitedly confront the mess before me. I've spent the past few days awaiting this moment: the moment I can finally catch up on life. The laundry piles are high, the dishwasher is full of clean dishes to put away and the sink is overflowing with dirty ones. There are bathrooms to be cleaned, beds to be made, and a refrigerator that needs to be replenished. I let out a huge sigh of relief - my home will soon be clean again.
Kids, two homes, and a 50-50 parenting split present me with five, consecutive, childfree nights: uninterrupted showers, a bathroom and a bed entirely my own, and sleep - hours upon hours of deep, peaceful sleep. Balance is built into my life via court-order. Some people say this is one of the perks of divorce. In theory, yes. But underneath it's not so rosy.
I stop to survey the mess, I'm suddenly overwhelmed. Instead of rejoicing in my time alone, my thoughts are consumed with regret. I glance at the pile of clothes at the bottom of the stairs, and I hear...

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