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We Need To Stop The ‘Love At First Sight' Myth When It Comes To Parenthood

Posted On: Jun 17, 2019   |   Posted By: Scary Mommy

We Need To Stop The ‘Love At First Sight' Myth When It Comes To Parenthood

I wanted to be a mom ever since I was a little girl and held my baby sister on my lap for the first time. Oh, her little fingers! Oh, her tiny toes! I was intoxicated by her whole delicious, precious self, and I knew I had found my calling. It was almost as if I spent the next 25 years counting down to the moment when I would become a mom and have a tiny, perfect baby of my own to love.
I have a confession to make, though. It's one that still hurts my heart when I think about it. When I did become a mother, I didn't love my baby, at least not at first. And not in the way I expected to. In fact, maybe it was all the expectations I had - the years of longing for the exact moment when I could meet and fall in love with my baby - that made it so difficult to absorb the actual feelings I was having when it finally happened.
My first son was born after a really beautiful, warm, loving, hippie homebirth. We had a birth pool set up in our living room, and he was born into the water after only a few hours of labor....

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