• I Didn't Have A Miscarriage - I Had A Stillbirth

    17 days ago - By Scary Mommy

    Trigger warning: child loss
    Forty-three years ago, when my mother-in-law had a stillbirth at 40 weeks into pregnancy, she didn't see her daughter. She lived in a culture and during a time when she wasn't encouraged to name her. She wasn't told where she is buried.
    She told me about this loss only because we were at the hospital visiting my father-in-law, and death was on our minds. It has come up in conversation only rarely since then. I never asked; she never offered. Why talk about what she had lost when she had two living children in subsequent years?
    But after she told me that story, I...
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