• Why It's Better To Be A ‘Gardener' Than A ‘Carpenter' When It Comes To Parenting Style

    2 monthes ago - By Scary Mommy

    When it comes to parenting, we all tend to fall into one of two categories: carpenters or gardeners. Or so says Alison Gopnik in her book, The Gardener and the Carpenter .
    According to Gopnik, a “carpenter” parent is very hands-on and provides lots of instruction. Like a carpenter building a house, the carpenter parent believes their actions-measuring and cutting and hammering and fixing-play a dominant role in shaping their child into the adult they will one day become.
    The “gardener” parent takes a more hands-off approach. We can't force a plant to become a plant, to lean toward the sun...
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